WHAT IS BDSM? | SEBASTIAN, FL BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHER | NICHOLE MARIE BOUDOIR

OMG, YOU WANT TO KNOW TOO??? Awesome, because so do a bunch of other people (including me at one point) and since there’s really no “gentle” way to talk about it, let’s just dive right in, shall we?

I'LL START BY SAYING THAT TRUE BDSM IS NOT ANYTHING LIKE 50 SHADES OF GREY

Have you seen any of those movies? Then you probably understand BDSM more than you think, however the movies portray an unhealthy relationship between the couple (which is really frowned upon by the BDSM community).

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WHAT IT STANDS FOR

BDSM is actually a really simple concept involving bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sometimes the giving and receiving of painful experiences (sadism & masochism). True BDSM doesn’t have to involve sex, and sometimes doesn’t at all! It’s more so about the dominant person getting excitement about being in control of the submissive (and vice versa).

Think about it like a massage. Some people get a massage because they want to feel relaxed and comfortable. For others, a massage leads to sex. You could think about a BDSM experience in the same way.

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COUPLES WHO ENGAGE IN BDSM ARE JUST AS STABLE AS YOU

It’s sometimes misunderstood that couples who enjoy BDSM activities are “weird” or “unstable,” which is not true. In fact, after doing some online research about the subject, people who have been abused earlier on in life are less likely to enjoy BDSM. Men who engage in BDSM are typically more stable and less stressed than men who don’t. Lastly, we’ve all heard the term “safe word,” and it’s there for a reason. Enough said.

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WILL WE SHOOT IT? YES WE WILL!

Now that we’ve covered the basics of BDSM and what it really is, if you’re into it, don’t be shy girl! If you have a session booked (or see one happening with us in the future) and this is your bedroom life.. BRING IT ON SISTA! Bring the restraints, flogger, the clamps and whatever else you want with you.

We might not be able to incorporate it all (think classy not trashy), but like you’ve seen here, we sure will try to use some of it!

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