5 REASONS WHY BEING AUTHENTIC WILL ENRICH YOUR LIFE | NICHOLE MARIE BOUDOIR | SEBASTIAN, FL BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHER

A few years ago when I started shooting boudoir photography and gaining followers on social media, I posed a caption on my Instagram with the word fuck. My husband looked at me like I had a third eye and asked me if I was 

“really going to use the word fuck online?”

My answer? Hell yes! The real me who laughs and screams with her clients and lifts people up… well… I also have a potty mouth. I’m not ashamed of it. They’re just words, and honestly I prefer to use words that get my point across.

When I say “Oh my God, that’s hot as heck,” it literally does no justice for how actually feel versus if I say “Oh my God that’s hot as FUCK!” See the difference?? Stay with me here!

The day I dropped the notorious F bomb on social media I thought to myself,

“If someone doesn’t like what I say online, they DEFINITELY aren’t going to like what I say in person, and that’s totally OK with me.”

See, in life, not everyone is cut from the same cloth and not everyone is going to like me, or you, or President Trump; but the difference between the people who are authentically them, versus the people pleasers…. Is HUGE.

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By being authentic…..

YOU ATTRACT LIKE MINDED PEOPLE

Most of my closest friends use the word fuck, have a dark sense of humor, and are energetic. That’s not an accident, it’s because that’s how I AM, and because I own it, that’s what I attract. If you love Jesus, go to church on Sundays, and talk about it frequently, I’m willing to bet your closest friends probably do too. Just because we are different, doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with either of us!

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YOUR EXPERIENCES IN LIFE ARE RICHER

Just like I said above, your vibe attracts your tribe, babe. Get some of your closest friends around you for your next party and be the REAL you. If some of them don’t like it, they might not come back to the next party, but those who do will bring other like minded people… before you know it, your circle of friends changes but your experiences with those people is much more rich than hiding the real you.

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YOU LIVE TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY, NOT OTHERS

Some day when you’re on your death bed, only YOU will experience the feeling of failure or fulfillment. NOW is the time to live…for you. Admit that you don’t like your job, best friend, husband, home, hair color… and make a change. NOW.

So stop living for other people’s happiness, and DO YOU BOO.

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YOU GIVE PEOPLE THE OPPORTUNITY TO LOVE THE REAL YOU

This one is pretty self explanatory. But for those of you who still aren’t getting it, let me break it down for you. It’s as easy as this: tell that guy you’ve been dating that you’re actually not into him anymore so you can move on and find someone that ignites your flame. Tell your husband what you REALLY want in bed, even if it’s uncomfortable or scary. Use the word fuck if you want to, or start verbalizing your political beliefs… 

Let. People. In. So they can love the REAL you.

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YOU CHOOSE TO DO THINGS THAT FULFILL YOU

So you told your friend you would go to their 2 year old’s bday party but deep down in the pit of your stomach you hate kid’s parties and you don’t even have children…so DON’T GO. Time is the most valuable thing we have on this earth…. WHY do we spend it doing things we don’t want to do?!?!?!? 

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I’m not saying be a shitty friend…. in fact, if you feel guilty for not going to the party, then plan a date with your friend and her child to hand deliver the gift with some equally important 1:1 time, when you’ll actually enjoy yourself. 

There are ways to be fulfilled in life without being completely self-centered, you just have to give yourself the permission to do so. 

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