One of the things I enjoy the MOST about being a boudoir photographer here in Sebastian, FL is hearing the stories behind the women I help to empower. This story in particular was too special not to share with you. As a mom, a wife, a nurse, AND a photographer who is constantly building everyone else up, this letter from a recent client REALLY hit home for me. I hope it will give you a little push in the right direction if you've been wanting to book a session, but just can't find the time.
My client wrote:
"I know I'm not alone in saying: I NEED THIS! Which brings me to why I'm doing this. Its long, so hang in there .........
Even though I'm nowhere near being old (I'm only 28), I have been a mother and a wife for just over a decade now. That's 10 years of loving, nurturing, sacrificing and giving. After a while, during all that giving and sacrificing, something changes in a woman. It's not necessarily any one thing at any certain time that changes.. but more an accumulation of things only a woman would understand. There are times when you are put (mentally and physically) on a back burner, everyday of your life. After a while, it can really take its toll on your spirit. You spend so much time caring about everyone else and what they need or want; never mind what YOU may be lacking. You eat cold food every night after you've stood and cooked it (which after a while we all try to convince ourselves wouldn't have tasted that great anyways because it took so long to cook). Women sacrifice pieces of themselves in everything they do, because that's what makes them women. Men can't do what we do. They, despite their own flaws, have managed to get one thing right; they value their personal time way more than we do. They are able to say very easily to themselves that they deserve to think of themselves- which is a wonderful thing! Women should do this too...but its not as easy for us. Its not in our nature. We are nurturers. Powerful and gentle. Loving and compassionate. And we constantly give.
Anyways, days and years just seem to go by, while everyday you are trying to balance being a mother and a lover. It's rarely easy, and almost always confusing- because we just keep giving. That's what we do. But after a while you get to a point where you can't pull from anywhere anymore. You're all out of anything else to give, all because you've cared for everyone else before yourself for too long.
Well, now here I am. I almost didn't do this. I thought I didn't have time, that it would be hard to explain to my husband why I would even want to. But I also felt something else. Something I hadn't felt in a very long time. Hope. Excitement. I felt myself from 10 years ago. I felt a desire to do something unexpected, something risky. Something 20 year old me would have been alllll over. I miss me. Im awesome. It was a turning point for me. I can only be as great as what I take the time for, and if I'm not taking any time for myself, this is not helping anyone! I want to feel my spirit again. I want to feel passionate again. I want to light a fire inside another woman to take time for herself, and tell her she deserves it too. "
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