I was a freshly new business owner, working from home, while also raising my 2 young boys. The fridge was almost empty, it had been 6 months since my hubby and I went on a date, and I hadn’t shaved my legs in at least a week (really, at that point who was counting?) I felt like I was burning the candle at both ends; staying up late and getting up early, yet I wasn’t getting anything accomplished. I felt bad about my self image, ignored my kids more than I ever wanted to, and my relationship with my husband was nothing like the romances I loved to read by Nicholas Sparks…
Does this sound like YOU??? Then keep reading sister…
If this is all resonating with you, you probably feel like you’re failing at being a mom, wife, friend, daughter, and maybe an entrepreneur. But you can change ALL of those things by utilizing one word: ORGANIZATION
Get organized by following my suggestions and regain the confidence you need to be successful as a stay at home mom, a wife, or a “mom”preneur.
It doesn’t matter if it’s the one that came on your phone or the old fashioned one that hangs on the wall in your kitchen. You need to have a calendar to stay organized. That is your first step to being a successful .… well…anything!
One of the biggest mistakes I was making on a daily basis was staying in my pjs or yoga pants on a daily basis (yea, I know, you do too right?!??!) I mean hello, that’s a perk of working from home!! Yes, it is, however moderation is key here. One or two days a week, keep those pink Victoria Secret sweats on all day! But the other 5 days you need to be showered, dressed, and (gasp) put on makeup!!! Being ready to go out into the world looking fresh will motivate you to do more things with your family … which leads me to the next point.
How often are you irritated by your kids during the day when you’re trying to get things done? Hello! That’s not their problem. Your work isn’t their priority, YOU are. They want YOU. They don’t care if the oatmeal is stuck to the side of the table 6 hours later, or if you book another client today. So stop the cleaning and emailing that take concentration and take your kids outside. Play with them, interact, engage. There’s time for work and there’s time for family, and to be successful at both, you need to be able to shut them off at the appropriate times.
When I say work, I mean housework too! I always communicate with my clients what my working business hours are, and I’ve never had a problem scheduling around these hours. For you, this might be the time you need to devote to cleaning, paying bills, etc. Maybe it’s from 9am-12 while your kids are in preschool. Whatever works for you, take it seriously!! Treat these hours like a corporate job and focus as if you were "going" to work. You’ll get SO much more done if you stick to your “work” schedule than if you try to spread out little tasks throughout the day.
Working at night after my kids were in bed was leaving me NO time for my husband. He would sit next to me on the couch while we watched a movie “together,” but my laptop was always open and I was constantly clicking away. Newsflash. That time spent together isn't quality, and is probably making your significant other feel really neglected.
I decided to devote just one night a week for couple time, unplugged from the world with no computer or cell phone. After just one of these nights "unplugged," the guilt I felt from never spending quality time together disappeared. Looking forward to that one night a week of real, quality time was so much better than endless nights of emptiness.
Some people probably thought I was crazy when I decided to hire a housekeeper. “What? You work from home but you have someone come clean your house? What do you DO all day???” Well, what I was doing was neglecting my kids to scrub bathrooms and mop floors because at night, I needed the time to do business work. No good. (But seriously, you don't need to explain yourself either. Do what works for you and your family!)
If you can afford it, have someone come twice a month and really deep clean your home. You can tidy up toys, do dishes, and throw laundry in on the regular, but hiring someone to deep clean just twice a month will relieve a LOT of stress! Believe me, I know from personal experience.
Above everything else I’ve said in this blog, the number one thing to do in order to be a successful “mom”preneur is:
If your kids are lucky enough to have you all day everyday, and be raised by the mamma who loves them and not Edna the elderly woman down at the local daycare, you deserve a frickin' pat on the back. Make your schedule, follow it, and remind yourself on a daily basis that you’re doing the best you can. YOU are a successful MOM! Take bubble baths, enjoy wine, and shave those dang legs because girrrlllll, YOU deserve it!!!